Resources
Voice and Choice
Voice and Choice are two “things” that victims lose in an abusive relationship. A large component of abuse is making you feel “less than.” Your opinion doesn’t matter to the abusive Read More
Find SAFE People
FIND YOUR PEOPLE. I’d like to tweak that a little… FIND SAFE PEOPLE. The somewhat tongue in cheek descriptions of “your people” are folks who will help you move or Read More
Outside My Window of Tolerance
Freeze, dissociation, and collapse. Those words cover a broad range of responses to threat. I’m grouping them together because they are other manifestations of being outside your Window of Tolerance. Sometimes when fighting Read More
Regulated and Activated
As you go through your day, notice when you are regulated and when you feel activated. Think about those words for a minute. They make sense in your body, so don’t Read More
The Power and Control Wheel
The Power and Control Wheel was so powerful in my journey. When I saw it for the first time, I was stunned. How did someone know what was going on Read More
The Layers of Healing
I have healed, I am healing, and I will continue to heal. One of the most hopeful truths I have learned is that healing happens in layers. I have found such Read More
What Will Help Even Look Like?
I was having a difficult day…and it was only 10:00am! Hmm…that was not a good sign for the rest of my day. I was telling/complaining to God about that, and a piece of a verse came to mind - “help in time of need.” Well, I was in a time of need, and I needed help! Read More
When My Anxiety Has Been Triggered
“Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10 NASB 1995 Read More
Grief and Abuse
As I worked to heal from the abuse I endured, I kept bumping up against something I couldn’t name and couldn’t get around. What was this “thing” that kept getting in the way? Read More
